Acknowledge and Voice Your Needs

Even if it's hard.

Even if you're not sure what they are.

Even if you wish they weren't your needs.

The first step is to voice them.

Our needs are never in conflict. It is the idea about which solutions we must have to meet those needs that can come into conflict.

A little bit about you

You love the person you're with and you want to make it work

You're willing to put in the work even if it's uncomfortable

You're not sure what to do or what exactly could be better

You're willing to weigh the needs of you and your partner equally

A Principled Approach Based on World Class Science

Common Triggers and Responses

Why do relationships typically fail? What underlying behaviors lead there?

Disciplined speech and disciplined thought

By separating our observations from our judgments, we can talk without triggering unhelpful reflexes.

Quantum leaps: small acts with a massive impact

Understanding is not enough, we must apply. Introduce new behavior in the easiest way possible.

The first time I fell deeply and completely in love, I did what I thought a good partner should do. Out of a sense of duty and obligation, I did the "right" thing.

Turns out this is an awful strategy that builds resentment and destroyed that relationship.

Sometimes it's not obvious what leads to long-term relationships, and there's always space to learn more and go deeper. The science of relationships gives us a solid foundation on which to build, and I'd love to guide you as I have others.

A little about me

J + M

"This session was more helpful than our last three years of counseling."

B + C

"Thank you so much. If we get married we'd love for you to officiate the wedding."

M + T

“Eddie has done wonders for our relationship. His frameworks are learnable, actionable, and effective.”